9 Ways To Work with your Fear


Fear can affect the best of us.

Whether it is fear of failure, fear of success or even fear of fear. All of us have experienced fear at some point in our lives and it can be a real stumbling block that holds us back from being truly happy and joyful.

There are several ways to work with your fear (yes I said WORK WITH, and not get rid of).

You can also use these flower remedies to support you through these practices.

Here are my top 9:

1. SEPARATE REALITY FROM PERCEPTION

Grab a cuppa. Turn off your phone, and sit in contemplation / with your journal - Ask yourself ‘What is really going on here?’ ‘What are the facts of this situation?’

Notice how your feelings are often far from the factual information presented.

2. IDENTIFY THE TRIGGER

Figure out what it is that triggered you. Learning to identify it will help you learn to understand your fears a bit better.    Remember, this isn't about eradicating your fears completely, because I don't really believe you can do that, it's more about transforming stress and fear to release the crippling grip it has on you, and in so doing, bring yourself back to You.

3. KNOW WHERE FEAR LIVES IN YOUR BODY

A lot of times, fear takes over physically. It affects different people in different ways.

You have to identify if/how it affects your physical body. Fear, if left unattended over an extended period of time, can lead to physical ailments which are much more challenging to work / through with once manifested.

Your body requires your attention so that you can tend to it in a nourishing and care-filled way.

Ex: if you hold stress in your back, you can learn how to stretch foam roll or exercise appropriately to avoid the buildup of tension.

4. PRACTICE GRATITUDE

Everyday, list out 1-3 things you are thankful for. It doesn’t matter how big or small it is, gratitude helps shift the mind into a positive light, which over time, overcomes fear.

5. LISTEN TO YOUR INNER VOICE

Monitor your inner conversations. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself. Speak kindly to yourself and remind yourself of your many strengths. My love; Let’s become more conscious of the words we speak to ourselves.

6. CREATE A NEW ASSOCIATION

Remind yourself that the feeling and the moment will pass. Focus on the potentiality of the situation, rather than the scary in-between. Our paths to grow and evolve continue throughout our whole lifetime and our potential can always be built on and expanded✨

7. LOOK AT THE GLASS HALF FULL

Perception is a very powerful thing, and how you feel about your situation dictates how you respond. So think outside of the box and you’ll give yourself a much better chance of overcoming the speed wobble. This won’t happen overnight; practice with just one thought. What is one recurring negative/fearful thought you have? Work on reversing this one thought. Overtime, this will become a habit. This is a lesson in learning how to self-regulate. Self-regulation is the ability to monitor and manage your energy states, emotions, thoughts, and behaviours in ways that are acceptable and produce positive results such as well-being, loving relationships, and learning.

8. PRACTICE BREATHING EXERCISES

Breathing helps regulate the stress response in your body. It’s the one thing that both happens automatically and is controlled by the brain. Try this with me, for one minute or 5 rounds.

 - Bring your attention to your breathing. Focus and visualise the air coming in and out of your lungs. Slowly, expand your breaths so that each time, you take in a little more. Breathe in through the nose, out through the mouth. In through the nose, out through the mouth. Lengthen the breath with each round.

This is one the easiest ways to start your day on the right foot, or even to come back to centre after challenges or trying situations / circumstances throughout your day.

You can also practice this breath technique here with me.

9. CREATE A SAFE SPACE

When you feel safe and secure, there is no room for fear. Find somewhere safe you can retreat to when ill feelings begin - whether this is a real place such as your bedroom, or a place in your mind such as the beach. From here, you can rebalance and experience a feeling of safety.  This sense of comfort will soothe you and allow you to move through your fear.

Please keep in mind, these are just 9 strategies and thought-provoking ideas that hopefully inspire you towards living in the WHOLENESS that is YOU.

Not everything works for everyone. But this is a place to start.

Start experimenting with these simple techniques for peaceful living,  and notice if they help you to feel better at all.

Don’t let fear hold you back from expanding into the fullest version of who you are.

May All Beings Be Safe & at Peace,

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